Celebrating the major transitions in life is as old as humanity. It seems that all human cultures have marked key moments in their lives with ceremony and speeches, music and feasting.

Rites of passage are a time for solemn commitments and joyful celebrations. They are also a time for reflection. They are moments when we step back from our daily concerns and look at our lives in a broader context. We explore the beliefs and values that give shape and meaning to our lives.

For many people these values – and their underlying existential beliefs – are religious. But there is nothing intrinsically religious about celebrating rites of passage. Many non-religious people like to celebrate too, but they prefer to do so in secular ceremonies, where they will not find themselves saying things they do not believe.

Examples of gratitudes


May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy

Grace (table prayer)

We are thankful for the food on this table.
We are thankful for this time together.
Our thoughts go out to family and friends;
We hope that they are safe and well.

Funeral / Celebration of life:

I will always miss ___. I find comfort knowing we can share our memories of him/her and I hope someday, those memories will bring less sadness and more joy.

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